conf: default to disabling federated avatar lookup (#5126)
It's a fun feature but `ENABLE_FEDERATED_AVATAR` being true by default
leads to confusion and huge slowdowns (see #2838, #980, #914) --- it's
unexpected that Gogs requires DNS configured (?) for avatars.
Avatar lookup is a niche feature that I don't believe should be enabled
by default given how prone it is to causing problems.